Monday, March 30, 2009

Proactive Parenting Review and Giveaway


I have been really searching hard in myself lately trying to figure out how to change the way I parent. It has been a real struggle for to change bad habits and feelings as I parent. I know I am not a bad mom but there are several days when that's all I feel defines me. I have read so many parenting books and the majority seem to contradict themselves. While I feel that there are some great points and truths in most of these books, I always find something that I don't agree with.

I was so thrilled when I was contacted by the people at Proactive Parenting. Proactive Parenting has a series of down loadable seminars that teach a parent effective ways to help your child and help the parent! I was given all of the seminars to try out and loved what I learned. They couldn't have come at a better time.

Here is a breakdown of the seminars that I listened to:
1) Correcting Toddlers- A great introduction on how to effectively discipline a younger toddler, including an alternative to time out.

2) Correcting Preschoolers- Gives another alternative to time out that is age appropriate for the older toddler and works with the developmental level that they are at.
3) Power Struggles, I Already Told You No!- this seminar made me realize the importance of how you are and how you speak to your child create an emotional foundation that your child will pass on to their children. Teaches great ways to correct without getting emotional and losing your temper.

4) Interrupting- This seminar taught me so many ideas on step by step ways to get your child to not interrupt you while you are talking.

5)Siblings, You Always Take His Side- how to show that you don't take sides and how to avoid time out when your children argue. A GREAT way to settle misunderstandings between siblings!

6) Whining, Potty Mouth, We Don't Talk Like That in This House- This was an eye opener on how children imitate their parents. This seminar teaches the Try Again method. (it really worked for me!)

7) Listening, Please Just Listen and Go Do It!- This seminar helps with getting your child to stop running in the house, to stay in bed, and to take care of their messes.

8) Self Control, Are You Allowed to Do That?- Keeping your children safe without lectures, time out, or threats. Uses the Go Nowhere Method and reminds the parent to be proactive vs being reactive.

9) Yelling, The Only Way to Get You To Listen- Makes you realize that yelling does not correct the behavior

10) Quiet, I Need You to Stop Talking for 1 Minute- I really need this seminar as I have two boys who non stop tell me what they are thinking!

I am so thankful for these seminars. They put in perspective of how my children are feeling and thinking as I am trying to correct their behavior. I love that Proactive Parenting uses Cause and Effect approaches to their techniques. I am taking a Lifespan Developmental Psychology class right now and their were perspectives used that I have been learning in my class. For example, Jean Piaget's approach to Cause and Effect and how a child's brain is not developed enough until age 7 to comprehend completely what happens when they behave a certain way. As I have tried implementing these techniques into my parenting and trying to teach my husband as well, I have realized how it is definitely a process and takes a mindful and patient, persist parent to get the results they are looking for.

Proactive Parenting has made me realize that if I really try to think about how my child feels and recognize my feelings in the moment, I am able to be more effective in my parenting. Proactive Parenting teaches the difference between discipline vs punishment and which is better for a child. It also uses "right here, right now" methods so that a child is corrected in the moment which is crucial for the child to learn rather than later.

I highly recommend these seminars to anyone who is looking to better their relationship with their child through a step by step approach to parenting. I sincerely hope that if you are questioning what you should do with how you are parent, that you would give Proactive Parenting a try.
Giveaway ends April 16th 11:59 pm
EDITED: I have had some confusion about the entry process for this giveaway. I tried using Google Docs and I think people don't quite get it.I have changed it back to the original way and have added the entries that were on my Google spreadsheet. So here are the new rules for entering:
Please go to the Proactive Parenting website and let me know which seminar you would like to try or have someone you know try.
For additional entries please leave a separte comment for each of the following:
  • If you subscribe to my blog via email
  • If you subscribe via feedburner
  • If you follow my blog
  • If you tweet about this and leave me the link
  • If you post about this on your blog and leave me the link.

I am also extending the giveaway deadline to April 21st 11:59pm


41 comments:

  1. We could really use this. Too bad I have the 1st comment, that one never gets picked.

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  2. I'm going to have to look more closely at these seminars. There are several I know I (and my kids!) could benefit from!

    Thanks for stopping by RefreshMomentsRefreshMoments during the UBP. Drop by again today and next Tuesday to check out our ongoing "Ruby Tuesdays;" if you leave a comment you'll get your name in the hat a couple more times for the "Afternoon Tea in a Box" giveaway! I'll look forward to seeing more of you, here and there.

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  3. I like the correcting Toddlers seminar! (annashopper at gmail dot com)

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  4. the correcting toddler seminar.
    1amypugmire

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  5. I honestly need all of them, but if I had to pick one, I would use the "How to Respond and not React to Toddler and Preschooler behavior." My e-mail address is aprilsmail(at)gmail(dot)com.

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  6. I already said no--mphamptonwrites@gmail.com

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  7. autum22@gmail.com email subscriber

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  8. autum22@gmail.com
    Everyday solution series would be great for me .

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  9. autum22 tweeted-http://twitter.com/AutumH/status/1426869108

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  10. I would love the #1 Correcting Toddlers and think there were othere that would really help me out as well. Thanks for the chance and the neat site.

    chericehodges@gmail.com

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  11. Love your site, just subscribed! Thanks.

    chericehodges@gmail.com

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  12. I went to the website and liked, "How to Respond not React to Toddler and Preschool Behavior
    The Audio Seminar". Of the ones you listed above, I could best use "#4 - Interrupting". My daughter is 3 and we're strugglingn with this right now. She's an only child, I'm a stay-at-home mom so she's used to have my full attention alot of the time. When she doesn't, she tries to regain it by interrupting. There are others, I could use as well, "Quiet, I need you to stop talking for 1 minute" - chuckle, I would take 30 seconds!

    Thanks for a great review -

    mayacarpenter at verizon dot net

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  13. I'm a new email subscriber and looking forward to reading your posts! I say "always and forever" to my daughter, too.

    mayacarpenter at verizon dot net

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  14. I also subscribed via feedburner

    mayacarpenter at verizon dot net

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  15. I follow your blog

    mayacarpenter at verizon dot net

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  16. I tweeted here
    http://twitter.com/janetmom2maya/status/1456071220

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  17. I blogged here

    http://giveawaysonblogs.blogspot.com/2009/04/quiet-i-need-you-to-stop-talking-for.html

    mayacarpenter at verizon dot net

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  18. I really really need
    #2 Correcting Preschoolers!! I have been struggling with my 3 yo. This would be great.


    bsyb100 at gmail dot com

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  19. I follow your blog
    hilaryglad at gmail

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  20. I subscribe to your blog via feedburner
    hilaryglad at gmail

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  21. I subscribe to your blog via email
    hilaryglad at gmail

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  22. Thank you everyone for reading my parenting article and entering this giveaway. Don't forget you can sign up for our newsletter at www.proactiveparenting.net (notice .net) so you can get parenting information every month. Thanks Ashley for everything!
    Sharon from ProActive Parenting

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  23. #1 correcting toddlers is one I could use. thanks

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  24. The listening seminar! My youngest hears.. I know he hears lol

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  25. I also subscribe via feedburner

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  26. i'd like to try the How to Respond NOT React to Toddler and Preschool Behavior

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  27. I would love to check out the Stop Reacting and Start Responding seminar! THanks

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  28. Tweeted
    http://twitter.com/breasmommy/status/1550787837

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